In a world full of emerging Kardashians, I choose to be just me. I am finding it ever-more important to be more than just okay with that. We live in a society brimming with people sharing their opinions and demanding we believe and partake in them. I am not a jean size. I have fat. My teeth are not white. My hair isn’t long enough. My nails aren’t painted. I don’t diet, and I don’t exercise as often as I should. I also don’t give a shit because it has taken me almost thirty-nine years to like just who I am just as I am.
I write this to express feelings, thoughts, and share a piece of me with the rest of you; not to tell you what to think or how to act. Being vulnerable is the key to being genuine in self-expression, and so I share that when I write the following. This isn’t a post about horses or cowgirls or mountains, but more along the lines of empowerment and exposure to reality in hopes that you can be okay with whom you see in the mirror every day.
This is a glimpse of the real me, so take it or leave it. To coin a favored phrase from my beautiful grandmother, “It is what it is, sweetheart.” I encourage those of you that choose to read this to be uniquely you. Don’t fall for society’s carbon copy version of someone else…
I am Heather. I am almost 39, and a Caucasian, married woman. I am a full-of-faith sinner; I believe in God, and I am not religious. I am a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, a niece, and a girlfriend. I am quirky and silly and blunt and broken. I am strong and insecure. I overthink, and I crave complexity, but I am painfully simple.
I am loud and confident, and I am shy and reserved. I am unconditionally conditional. I struggle and I endure. I am not hateful or boastful, and I am self-effacing. I love and I forgive. I am not normal, nor do I ever care to be. I crave adventure and love the assurance of a daily home routine. I say no and I say yes all in one shot. I yell, I scream, and I fight and bleed.
I know my weaknesses and thrive on my strengths. I hurt and I cry and I feel absolutely everything. I wonder and I know. I believe, but I don’t always understand. I fall down seven times, and I stand up eight. I listen to listen, not to respond. I contemplate and ponder and consider all angles.
I love deeply and sky wide, and I don’t worry about the approval of others any longer; yet, I seek their sense of understanding. I am crazy; fully certifiable bat shit insane, and I am the calm in the storm. I have patience and perseverance and I push to get my way. And I am stubborn, so very stubborn. I am ashamed at times, but I am proud. I am best anchored with my feet ten feet off the ground.
I change with the wind, and I shoulder in to keep that change at bay. I am almost never sure of what I really want, but always clear on what I don’t want. I make no excuses about who I am, and I damn sure have no regrets. I am classy and sophisticated, and I wear jeans and have horse shit on my boots. I cuss too much, and I am brutally honest.
I am not a watered down version of anyone else. I dream big, really fucking big. And I am strong, worthy, and imperfect. I cry, a lot, and I smile even more. I have bad days, and I try every goddamn day to be a better version of myself than I was the day before.
I just am me, and I won’t apologize for that. I serve a faithful, loving and forgiving God that allows me to be all of this. I am capable, strong-willed and beautiful. And simply, I am enough.
And you are, too. Be your own brand of beautiful, write your own story, and make your mark on this world. Love your flawed and imperfect self stitched together with good intentions. Just be you, just as you are.